Teachings on: “Relationship”

The most important thing relationships hope to teach us is accountability for our own “issues”. We are often blind to the fact that relationships do reflect our issues back to us in a very real and sometimes painful way. Relationships therefore offer profound opportunities for growth. Sometimes we want another to love us perfectly because we are afraid or stopping ourselves from loving who we are completely – flaws and all. Interestingly, the qualities in others that ‘get to us’ the most are usually reflected as opposite unhealed qualities in us. For example, if you are too responsible and afraid of letting go and making mistakes – you will be upset by what you perceive to be irresponsible qualities in others. If you suppress what you want to say, people who speak freely and openly may irritate you. Our relationships do reflect us back to ourselves, and like mirrors they are paradoxically the same image but in reverse. Relationships often trigger our buttons so that we can find them and heal them ourselves. Blaming or running will not heal our wounds and buttons.

Sometimes we think that we are being courageous by shutting our hearts to others, but in fact it takes more courage to stand in the fire with someone and love.

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